Instead of the typical “happy birthday” message in a card or text message, I asked everyone I know to write me a handwritten letter for my birthday. Read how a letter is a truly unforgettable gift, and some suggestions on what to write to make your family and friends feel incredibly adored and appreciated.

For my 40th birthday, I received a beautiful love letter from my friend with forty things she loves about me. I wanted to share her words with you for two reasons: to remind all of us that showing up does make a difference, and to give you an example of the most unforgettable birthday gift you can give someone.